Dating as a teenager vs. dating as a single parent.

Granted I didn’t get a lot of practice dating when I was a teenager as I had two boy deterrents – glasses and frizzy hair, but hey, swans and ugly ducklings or something like that. But as a grown up, if you’ve been dating someone for more than a couple of weeks the likelihood is you are going to want to do a few things. A few things that are as difficult to do as a single parent as they were when you were a teenager.

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1. Cook a romantic meal – this is difficult for different reasons. When you were a teenager
a) you could probably only cook three basic meals
b) you didn’t own your house so had to get your parents out of the way
c) you also didn’t own a car so had to get to the supermarket and lug all your shopping back on the bus or your bike. Now I seem to be in one supermarket or another most days so this isn’t an issue. Not taking a list with you and failing to purchase a vital ingredient is much more likely!

As a single parent if you manage to get your child to bed before said date comes over (a feat in itself) then you still have to actually prepare the meal, remove all playdoh and colouring paraphernalia from the table at the very least and make yourself look vaguely respectable. If you manage all of this then you’re probably superwoman but it will, no doubt be just as you sit down to ear that a little head pokes round the door asking for a glass of water.

2. Going to the cinema – as a teenager this was just an excuse to get away from your parents, sit in a darkened room having a snog and a fumble in the back row and not get caught by the attendant who specifically put you in the middle row as that’s what your ticket said. As a single parent (or any parent I would guess), if you put me in a darkened room I’m quite likely to fall asleep very quickly.

If I manage to stay awake and drink the inexplicably fizzy and cold Pepsi that you pay £1000’s for then I will be trying not to have to visit the loo every 15mins or to stop the building heartburn.

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3. Watching tv and snuggling – as a teenager watching tv with a date always involved lying down, taking up the whole sofa, eating and the odd quick kiss hoping your parents didn’t walk in. Trying to do anything more than a kiss was just asking for trouble.

It’s much the same as a single parent, apart from the fact that, again, if I’m comfy and lying down I will am probably going to fall asleep, but if anything frisky does start happening there’s always that fear that you’ll hear the door being pushed open my little hands as soon as you take an item of clothing off! Kissing with one eye on the door is very difficult and probably quite unnerving for the other person!

4. Sleep together – as in stay over and wake up together in the morning. As a teenager this is all down to whether your parents are ever away and whether your date can tell a convincing lie and has friends who will back up that lie.

As a single parent its pretty much down to who has their child(ren) when and whether you can get away with asking your ex or your parents whether they could possibly swap weekends or have your child overnight without having to fully explain why. You’d either be telling your ex that you’ve found someone you want to have lots of sex with or you’ll be telling your parents that you will be having sex full stop and no one wants to have to have either of those discussions!

Dating like a teenager can be quite good too though I guess. Kissing ALL the time, walking hand in hand, feeling those butterflies in your stomach and not getting sidetracked by the mundane day to day stuff.

Yeah I suppose I can take the bad with the good.

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  1. Messed Up Mum

    April 3, 2015 at 10:43 pm

    I date every now and again and it really is just as tragic as a single parent doing it as a teen isn’t it?? Haha! The only difference now is that I have a little more confidence to be able to speak up and tell my date about potential hurdles whereas as a kid it was all about looking cool, haha! X

  2. Somerset Garden

    April 4, 2015 at 6:51 pm

    Just trying this juggling act and the keeping it from kids and parents just adds to the excitement. Not sure which was easier – now when I am widowed with 2 pre-teens or when I was 18!! All I can say is it is fun!!

    1. theperfectjuggler

      April 4, 2015 at 9:11 pm

      I agree, it is fun! I think confidence makes dating now more fun, maybe not easier but less angst can only be a good thing! 🙂

  3. Hannah Spannah Coco Banana

    April 4, 2015 at 9:06 pm

    I’ve yet to start dating as a single parent but this really hits home what it’s going to be like! Help!!! Maybe I’ll wait until he leaves home……he’s 3yrs….oh balls

    1. theperfectjuggler

      April 4, 2015 at 9:09 pm

      Im sure it can be done well Hannah! I am definitely going to try my hardest. Be brave and go on a date when/if you feel like its a good time for you and your ready. Its not that scary – honest! x

  4. lolly33

    April 5, 2015 at 9:14 pm

    Anyone on the horizon? Those ‘good things’ sound like someone talking from recent experience!

    1. theperfectjuggler

      April 5, 2015 at 10:23 pm

      Ha ha, I couldn’t possibly comment…well not yet anyway. ?

  5. Emily Rose Lewis

    April 7, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    Its been over five years since I have been on a date. The ten years before that dates were few and far between. I have no regrets. Raising a child is a full time job. I can’t imagine juggling dating while trying to raise a teenager.

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