5 things I’d tell my 18 year old self
Me and RamblingsOfAnAnxiousMumma have both been having trouble pressing publish on our blogs lately (as you can tell by my lengthy hiatus). So we decided to hold each other accountable and just press the scary ‘publish’ button. This was meant to be a light-hearted little post to get us going but got a bit deep and meaningful but still worth writing and getting out there. Feel free to pass on to any 18 year olds you know.
1. University isn’t the only way.
University is hyped to be the biggest thing at 18. The answer to everything in fact, but you know you’re not ready to go yet. Take a year out and work out whether university is actually the way to go. You learn better on the job and you are great at building relationships so maybe look at apprenticeships or internships. Graphic design or public relations would be a good plan. But also don’t expect to be in the same career all your life. Shit happens which changes your outlook and priorities and you don’t have to know what you want to be when you grow up now – hell I’m not even sure I know that at 34!
2. Head to the big smoke
Follow your childhood dream of moving to London. Like that suncream song from a few years ago says “Live in New York (London) but leave before it makes you to hard…” Experience it once so you can say you have or you will pine for what could have been everytime you visit.
3. For fuck sake travel.
Work hard and earn money to travel. You don’t have to do the backpack thing – although you should – but go and see places. Take up opportunities. Volunteer abroad. Climb mountains whilst you still have the energy because once you have a mortgage, bills to pay and kids all that becomes very difficult to do. Logistics. Money. Time. Dogsitters. JFDI!
4. Follow your gut.
In everyway. If you love someone – despite the barriers in your way (yes you know who I’m talking about) – tell them and do something about it. If you feel that something isn’t right or someone is hiding something trust your goddamn gut. If work is making you feel bad on the daily, get out. Its not worth your mental health deteriorating and fate seems to come up with the goods when you need it. Things change and people change but your gut is always right.
5. You don’t always have to be the one holding everything together.
It’s not weak to give up on things. You’re a Taurus and you’re stubborn which can be good but it can also be your biggest downfall. If you don’t love someone anymore, don’t feel you have to keep it going because you promised something. Let things go. Do not hold on to things because you’re stubborn and want to make it work. Doing so will save you time, heartache and also a shed load of money.
And one last thing…if you do go to uni don’t buy boots with your student loan in your third year. They’ll break your ankle.
What would you tell your 18 year old self? Let me know in the comments!